Hello again! Apologies for the sporadic posting; I’m in the last two weeks of my research study for my postgraduate degree and after that’s been handed in I’ll be back on track with my regular schedule! Anyhow, I’ve been ruminating on this post for the last few days and, even though it didn’t go up on Monday, I wanted to share it without waiting for next week.
With my research deadline coming up, job applications being sent, and a constant stream of questions regarding my future, the fear of failure has begun to niggle at my brain a little. Instead of letting it paralyse me, though, I’ve been focusing on using this nervous energy to my advantage. One day, scrolling through my Facebook feed, I saw a video continuously pop up. You’ve probably seen it already, the one where Sara Blakely, founder of SPANX, reflects on how her perceptions of failure were changed for the better when she was younger. Here’s a link to the full video, but the basic gist is that the only way we truly fail is by not doing. Even if it takes you 3000 tries to make a light bulb, you come in last place in your sports tournament or fitness competition, or don’t secure that dream job…you tried. And yes, trying might not feel good enough and you may need to get creative in your next steps (because saying “I tried” won’t pay the bills), but constantly putting yourself out there without letting doubts about your capability get in the way will lead you to success eventually. It’ll certainly bring you more progress than being so consumed by your doubt and negativity that you stop trying altogether.
I’ve doubted myself more times than I can count. When I first moved to Aberdeen, half my thoughts on the flight over were “I can’t believe you’re doing this. What are you thinking?! Moving to a new city, jumping into a graduate business programme from an arts background…no way this will work out.” And yet, despite my uncertainty from the time I accepted my position at the school until today, typing this, I pushed past any doubts I had. Do I still get nervous about a new project or discussing stakeholder engagement techniques? Absolutely. But it’s an excited nervous energy, and I’ve learned to embrace the challenge of not knowing everything right away. Believe it or not, life gets a
little lot more exciting when you’re constantly learning and growing your knowledge base.
Embrace the doubt that comes with pursuing your goals, and see how far you can go! Instead of running away from the unknown or unfamiliar, give yourself the chance to prove to that negative voice in your head that yes, you can achieve the outcome you want. And as always, leave me a comment with any time you’ve experienced this-or a doubt you’re struggling to overcome!